A flourishing partnership hinges on the ability to express yourself openly while upholding your own principles. Most individuals will honor your personal limits once you clearly communicate them, and they will generally expect the same consideration in return; it’s a mutual agreement.Personal limits act as the guidelines we establish in our interactions. Someone with solid boundaries can confidently say “no” when necessary, yet they also feel secure in forming intimate and meaningful connections.
Isn’t it true that many of us feel a twinge of guilt when faced with a sudden decision between attending a family gathering we committed to and an important meeting that requires our presence?
Or perhaps when you’d rather relax at home, but your best friend insists you dress up for a reunion?
If you aren’t quite sure about your personal boundaries, don’t fret—we’re here to help!
Step 1 – Understand the Purpose
Having boundaries is crucial for our own protection and well-being. It is essential to communicate to others when their behavior crosses our comfort zones.
Step 2 – Learning to React to Challenges
While unexpected situations occur that may seem beyond our control (like job losses, vehicle breakdowns, or natural disasters), we still hold the power to choose our reactions to these occurrences. We can view what appears to be a disaster as a chance to evolve.
Step 3 – Assess Your Emotions
Recognizing and managing your feelings can serve you well. If you notice your emotions—like anger or anxiety—might be too intense for the other party to handle, don’t hesitate to step back. Taking a break to regain your balance is far preferable to returning while still emotionally overwhelmed. Give yourself that time, and you’ll return a more centered and cherished version of yourself.
Step 4 – Participate in the Quiz
Are you curious about what type of boundaries you possess?
Join us for an Instagram quiz by clicking this link, and return here for insights on your results—
Boundary quiz Results {ISRA}
8 to 15: you demonstrate strong boundaries; however, consider if you sometimes create emotional barriers that make you seem indifferent or distant.Suggestion ~ try being a bit more open and vulnerable with trustworthy individuals and observe how uplifting that feels
16 to 23 developing boundaries. You demonstrate a healthy balance yet encounter occasional challenges. Every so often, take time to engage in creative pursuits or simply enjoy music.
24 to 31 fragile boundaries, you maintain close ties with a limited circle of individuals and tend to invest excessively in them. Remember to carve out some time for yourself and engage in practices like gratitude journaling
32 to 40 very fragile boundaries, You frequently feel drained and overwhelmed as many people may exploit your generosity, leaving you emotionally bare. It’s time to prioritize your own needs.
Step 5 – Putting the Puzzle Together
- Be conscious and reflective about entering new relationships, and remind yourself of your inherent worth, regardless of someone else’s presence in your life.
- Boost your self-worth by challenging irrational thoughts like “I must cater to everyone” or “I shouldn’t refuse.” Elevate your self-esteem based on your own judgment, not others’ perceptions.
- Embrace self-awareness, make a list of your preferences, and don’t hesitate to express your thoughts when necessary.
- Honor others’ boundaries too, as recognizing that everyone has their own struggles enhances mutual respect and healing.
- Follow Lifectionery on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and feel free to reach out to the in-house psychologist for any questions or just to share your feelings.
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Sources and credits
Therapist resources available online
Isra
Psychology Today online publication
About the Author
Dr. Nishtha Grover
I am an educator and a counseling psychologist. Writing and simplifying complex emotions is what drives me. I aim to spread kindness and joy through my work.
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