Marek Piwnicki

Alisha is an adorable server at a prestigious restaurant. She harbors feelings for a manager named Andy. However, when she musters the courage to invite him for coffee, self-doubt clouds her mind, spoiling the moment. Her lack of confidence stems from a traumatic relationship with an ex-boyfriend who treated her poorly. In the end, she decides to step away and spend some time reflecting alone.

A couple, Emily and John, recently tied the knot. They have worked at the same company for five years, with John taking on a desk job and Emily preferring the field. Their relationship was flourishing, characterized by late-night conversations, candlelit dinners, charming getaways, and lighthearted disagreements. However, one foggy day turned everything upside down. Some employees were away on holiday, while others, feeling homesick, had to stay back. On that day, Emily and John found themselves working side by side. Emily was overwhelmed with extra paperwork and sought John’s guidance. While she approached him, an upset co-worker in John’s office unexpectedly broke down in tears. John instinctively went to comfort her. When the woman attempted to hug him, John politely stepped back. From a distance, Emily saw what appeared to be her husband embracing another woman and immediately assumed he was unfaithful. When John later explained the situation, saying that the woman was simply distressed about being away from home, Emily struggled to accept his explanation. John found her reaction baffling. Ultimately, convinced of his betrayal, Emily left the office in haste.

What transpired in these narratives?

These situations highlight how trust issues can infiltrate lives. Alisha’s fears arise from a painful past with an abusive partner, while Emily grapples with memories of betrayal from her previous marriage that affect her perception of John.

It’s a harsh reality, but trust issues often stem from past hurts.

Every time you learn and grow, their grip lightens a bit.

Let’s pose a quick question:

Who among us isn’t afflicted by trust issues?

Chances are, we’ve all experienced this at some point in our lives. Am I right? 

When battling with trust issues, you may find yourself:

1. Shying away from commitments,
2. Finding it challenging to be open with others,
3. Engaging in disputes over trivial matters,
4. Spending excessive time in solitude (like Lucy),
5. Anticipating that others will harm you through their actions,
6. Experiencing loneliness or bouts of depression.

These responses are completely natural.

And that’s perfectly fine.

Think of it as a perpetual hangover; you must find a way to heal it.

If you’re wondering, “How do I proceed?” you’re already on the right path.

If you’ve made it this far, you’ve taken the crucial first step: believing in yourself and mustering the courage to tackle your trust issues.

Effective Strategies to Overcome Your Trust Issues.

1. Cease the Immediate Suspicions.

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The well-known adage, “Don’t judge a book by its cover,” was likely borne from experience. It’s vital to seek to understand what a person is thinking rather than making assumptions based merely on appearances.

Being overly cynical can cloud your judgment and prevent you from recognizing genuine people. I want you to escape the lifelong prison of doubt. So, reduce those suspicions—it’s not beneficial.

True love, friendship, and success await just beyond the barriers of wise choices.

2. Express Your Feelings.

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Opening up can lead to significant improvements. When you share your emotions with someone who knows your background, it can trigger a series of constructive thoughts. Open up about your experiences and how you currently feel. You’ll likely gain better clarity regarding your trust issues.

3. Embrace Life Experiences.

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Consider this:

If someone has betrayed you and months later you are still struggling to move on, it might be helpful to recognize that trust issues are simply a part of your life’s journey. People will enter and exit your life; some may break your trust while others strive to honor it. Life revolves around patience and progression.

Know that trust issues may linger at times, but conversely, you will grow more respectful.

4. If You Falter, Keep Trying.

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Indeed, you read that correctly. If someone has hurt you or walked away, take a moment to reflect on the lessons learned and proceed forward.

While recovery takes time, once achieved, life becomes more manageable, enabling you to accept individuals for who they truly are.

What if that same person re-enters your life?

They may wish for things to return to how they once were, but

it’s likely that the dynamic will never be the same again.

Marek Piwnicki