| Jackson Simmer |
What I’m about to discuss in this article applies to anyone who has ever been a student. It’s about you.
When someone hurls foolish remarks at you, I understand how that feels.
In fact, it’s one of the worst feelings imaginable that can happen to anyone, at any time.
Consider how you react when someone insults or annoys you with a ridiculous question:
- Do you aim to prove them wrong?
- Respond with sarcasm?
- Consider striking them? (I admit, this is my go-to reaction, but I hold back)
Or
- Just walk away?
Some might argue that walking away is the best option or simply a sign of weakness. Let’s explore that.
How about answering back? It’s quite fashionable these days to reply with sarcasm, isn’t it?
I confess I enjoy it too, but it rarely yields positive results, and you likely know this, too.
Proving them wrong may seem like the ideal response for some, but it often leads to denigrating your self-respect just to make a point. Is that justifiable?
Now, let’s examine the last option:
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| Sinitta Leunen |
Striking someone might be the first impulse that crosses our minds. Sometimes we manage to resist it; other times, not so much (like the alternatives). But if you cannot manage your anger and lash out in rage (pure aggression), what’s the outcome?
Just a temporary thrill of satisfaction, a sore hand, and likely receiving a return hit. Soon enough, you’ll realize that you’ve made a mistake.
Think about this.
“Sometimes, non-violence can seem frustrating, but it won’t sabotage your life!”“
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This paves the way for moving forward.
Verbal assailants present us with an opportunity. If you respond to them in kind, “BOOM,” you’ve signed up for an argument agency, but you’ll receive nothing in return. No pay, unproductive time, a troubled mind, a bad mood, etc.
Moreover, those who provoke you are already masters in their game.
Instead, consider mastering your own skills—namely, VERBAL SELF-DEFENSE.
Deep down, we all desire this. The four mistakes mentioned arise from our ignorance of appropriate defense techniques.
Let’s delve into the correct approaches…
These powerful strategies will transform your mindset. Forever!
- First, maintain your composure and follow these three essential steps.
- Focus on natural breathing and relaxation.
- Listen attentively to the issue at hand.
- If they highlight your flaws, don’t let your annoyance show. Just take note.
- Learn How to Reply
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| Olivia Hutcherson |
It’s evident that responding with an aggressive tone, as aforementioned, would result in an unwelcome chapter in a book you wouldn’t want to read.
When someone decides to launch their words at me with a nonsensical or humorous angle, I respond with neutrality and keen attention. I appreciate their comment as a possible truth, but in my mind, I’m searching for that ‘x‘ that will help me decode the actual issue, and then, “eureka!” I unveil the truth through a laid-back conversation. I uncover their motives behind such a bizarre act.
For instance:
Her: Hey Pratik, you know that your relationship with exercise is going to end poorly.
Me: Really? How so? (staying calm)
While I navigate her statements, I will steer the dialogue towards clarity.
This could turn sour if;
Her: Hey friend, your connection with that girl will hurt you.
Me: I’m not interested in trivial chatter. I like her.
Her: My words mean nothing to you, huh?
Me: No, that’s not true. I didn’t say that.
Her: Yes, you did!
Me: Not at all, I just…
(And there it goes, the argument begins)
(Wish me luck!)
It all catalyzes from one misleading remark.
Controversies, arguments, pleading, and retaliating are pitfalls in effective communication.
- Navigate the conversation with insignificant topics
When someone in your personal life verbally attacks you, remaining silent or walking away may give them the impression that you’re indifferent. This is where they miscalculate (for some, it’s inconsequential, but importantly, you want them to stop, or they may develop a pattern of pestering you). Over time, you will become their target.
Rather than resigning yourself to that role, consider diverting their attention by introducing another story that bores them.
To illustrate:
“Gamer: Man, how can you be so terrible at shooting? You’re awful.”
Developer: True, man. You know what, it all began when I was learning to code. My first language was Java. No, hold on; it was C++. No, no, wait, it was HTML. Perhaps that’s why I also engaged in outdoor sports. I enjoyed football. There’s something about perfectly timing a kick to land the ball at the appropriate distance. Ah, those days! Winning tournaments across various fields…
Gamer: I have to go now, buddy. Catch you later!
And that developer resumed work in a peaceful state, recalling fond memories.
Try this with your own flair. Soon, those who abuse will likely think twice before speaking up again.
There are numerous additional strategies for verbal self-defense that I haven’t covered due to their application in less frequent situations.
But I will explore them with you in the future.
Until then, stay engaged!
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Try to mesmerize this.
"Sometimes non-violence sucks, but it won't suck your life!"— LifeSuggests | Life & Wellness Blogzine (@lifesuggests) January 12, 2021
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| Jackson Simmer |